Each of us has our own set of values and beliefs and therefore defining one’s’ character as having or lacking integrity is subjective. Integrity is based on what that one person perceives another with integrity really means.
With that said, however you define integrity, I believe we all can agree that determining ones’ having integrity relies mostly on them standing for something and then staying on purpose with whatever that something is. When one sways from that purpose and behaves in a way that is no longer in alignment with what they previously stood for, they can become labeled as being out of integrity.
Have you heard – Do as I say, not as I do? Prime example of someone who does not stay on purpose with what they stand for and believe in. If they did, then the saying would be do as I say and as I do. If you are a parent, this is crucial. Parents are modeling behavior for their children. Actions speak louder than words. Children pick up on those subtle behaviors and ignore lip service.
The same holds true with adult relationships. Work or personal, it doesn’t matter. People are savvy and see right through smoke screens. Some may not be sophisticated enough or have the confidence to call another on it but when people exhibit a lack of integrity, out goes the trust factor too. You can’t trust someone who doesn’t do as they say. What they are telling you is that they don’t believe in their own advice either.
In the Personal Development industry, when you are seeking help from a coach or mentor, it is important to interview and get to know the person who will be advising and guiding you through a process. Ask questions about how this has helped them. Find out what their values and beliefs are so you can match yourself with someone who has similar values and beliefs as you.